Austin, TX · Post-Divorce Dating Consultant
Stop the cycle.
Own the room.
Date differently.
Straight-talking, results-driven guidance for men and women ready to reenter dating after divorce — with confidence, boundaries, and real strategy.
Sound familiar?
If you found me on TikTok,
one of these is you.
The Situationship Loop
You keep ending up in almost-relationships. Not quite committed, not quite single. You know something's off but can't get out without burning it all down.
The Ghosting Pattern
Things start great, you open up, and then — silence. You're doing everything right on paper. The problem isn't your effort. It's your nervous system energy.
The Unavailable Magnet
Emotionally unavailable people find you like a homing signal. You know it, you hate it, and yet here you are again. This is a regulation pattern, not a character flaw.
Post-Divorce Identity Fog
Who are you now? You built your identity around a marriage that's over. Dating feels impossible when you're not sure who's showing up to the date.
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The Regulated Dating Series
Before a consultation, before a call — start here. These guides are where real change begins. Written from inside the experience, not from a clipboard.
Most PopularThe Situationship Exit Plan
For anyone who knows they need to get out — but keeps finding reasons to stay. A nervous system approach to making the clean exit.
- →Why you got stuck (the nervous system explanation)
- →Trauma bond vs. real connection — how to tell the difference
- →The exact steps to exit without blowing up or shutting down
- →Dating differently — actually — after
NewWhy You Keep Attracting Unavailable People
Your nervous system hook dressed in dating language. This one names the pattern most people spend years trying to understand.
- →The real reason unavailable people feel more "exciting"
- →How your early attachment wiring shows up in dating
- →Two real women — two very different outcomes
- →The tools that actually change the signal
FreeThe Post-Divorce Dating Audit
5 patterns I've seen in 15+ years of Austin's dating scene — and what each one reveals about your nervous system.
- →Pattern identification + what's underneath each one
- →The Austin-specific context
- →First steps for each pattern type
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About Katy
I didn't study this.
I survived it.
I'm Katy Austin — dating reentry consultant, nervous system nerd, and the person people call when they're stuck in a pattern they can't name and can't get out of.
I spent 15+ years navigating Austin's dating scene as a single mom after escaping an abusive marriage to a narcissist — juggling legal harassment, co-parenting, and building a life I actually wanted. What I learned in that process you can't get from a certification.
My approach is simple: dating problems are nervous system problems. When you regulate first, the right people show up. The situationships stop. The ghosting stops. The pattern breaks.
I work with men and women in their 30s–50s who are done settling and ready to show up as their actual selves. No therapy talk. No toxic positivity. Just straight, warm, results-focused guidance.
Lived Experience
15 years as a single mom post-divorce in Austin's scene. Not theory — boots-on-the-ground experience.
Red Flag Expertise
Sharp skills in spotting toxic dynamics and setting firm boundaries with exes.
Austin-Specific
Neighborhood-level knowledge of Austin's dating culture, from South Congress to North Austin.
Nervous System Regulation
Breathwork and energy shifts that move you from anxious to magnetic. Results you feel.
Woman's Perspective
Women sense unhealed trauma as danger. I give you the real playbook so you draw the right people.
Signature Offer
The Level Up Confidence
Consultation
Real-time feedback on your first impression, energy, and presence. The most direct path to showing up differently.
Premium Program
The Signal
$1,000Workbook + 2 Google Meet sessions
A six-phase post-divorce performance system — real science, real stories, and 30+ exercises for people who don't do therapy.
- —Six-phase workbook delivered as a digital download
- —Complete the system at your own pace
- —Two 1:1 Google Meet sessions with Katy to work through what came up
- —Pattern work, nervous system tools, and identity rebuilding
Ongoing Private Coaching
Want to go even deeper?
For clients who want ongoing, customized post-divorce reentry guidance. Pattern work. Identity rebuilding. Sustained results. Limited to 2–3 clients per month.
$597
Single Private Session
Deep-dive via Google Meet. Fully customized to exactly where you are right now. Pattern work, identity rebuilding, and sustained results.
Book — $597$1,997
4-Session Package
Four sessions for sustained transformation. Most impactful for deep pattern work. Limited to 2–3 clients per month.
Book — $1,997Limited availability · Email to apply or ask questions
Client Reviews
Real results.
Real people.
"Katy walked with me through the entire divorce — helping me regain my self-worth while I was still in the middle of the chaos. Two years later, I'm in a healthy, loving long-term relationship. She taught me how to regulate my nervous system, set strong boundaries, and show up as the confident woman I forgot I could be."
"Katy didn't just give me dating tips — she taught me how to regulate my nervous system after 20 years of marriage. I went from awkward first dates and constant overthinking to calm, confident presence. Six months later I'm in a healthy, committed relationship."
"I was the classic Austin guy — zero game, outdated style, unregulated energy. Katy called me out in the nicest way. Equal parts funny wake-up call and practical game plan. I'm now dating with actual self-respect instead of desperation."
"Most programs feel generic. Katy's is different — real Austin life experience wrapped in regulated dating strategies. She helped me spot my hidden patterns, rebuild confidence, and stop chasing validation. I'm finally back in the saddle with healthy boundaries."
"The session was eye-opening. Practical tweaks to style, posture, and energy that I could apply immediately. I felt noticeably more confident walking out of that café."
"Game-changing 90-minute session. Katy pinpointed minimal changes on grooming and energy that made a massive difference. Worth every cent."
"She helped me rebuild my identity, set real boundaries, and leave a toxic relationship. I'm dating with clarity for the first time in years."
"Biohacking my nervous system + presence upgrades. Went from being ghosted weekly to having steady quality dates. The shift was faster than I expected."
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